We are all hard-wired to feel and to connect to others. Our emotions orient us, tell us if our needs are being met, and spur us to actions that are in our best interest. Acting on our emotions feels good, empowering, alive, and energetic. Sharing our feelings enables us to feel seen, heard, and validated. When we experience our full range of our emotions we can be more open, expressive and affirming.
Yet so many of us are scared of our feelings. We are literally afraid of feelings that naturally occur, and of being dismissed or ignored by others if we share them. It is our fear of feeling and fear of revealing that causes us distress and keeps us disconnected from ourselves and from each other.
In our sessions, through the psychotherapeutic model of AEDP, we focus on getting past the anxiety in order to actually fully feel our feelings. This simple-sounding step transforms everything. It brings what has been hidden into the light and becomes a compass to living a truer, happier, more honest and more effective life. By being able to feel whatever we feel, we are more capable of meeting the challenges of everyday life.
How does this happen?
Our work together is all about experiencing the depth and breadth of your feelings, especially the ones long ignored or suppressed. It is not about simply telling your story - it’s about feeling every part of that story as you tell it. The healing will happen as long as we take the time to slow down and feel each emotion that comes up no matter what we talk about.
So we don’t just talk about feelings. We feel our feelings - together, in session, with as much transparency and for as long as possible.
We share our feelings, making the implicit explicit.
We brave our vulnerability so that we can be felt, heard, and seen.
We become known to ourselves and to one another.
We feel empowered and more confident.
We feel more patient and compassionate for ourselves and for others.
We learn that by being able to feel all of our feelings, we are calmer and more connected to ourselves and others.
By becoming better able to feel, we feel better.
We feel better by feeling better.
If you want to learn more or schedule an appointment please use the form on the Contact page or email me directly at DrDavidGerard@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you.